Learning the Hard Way

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“Our bodies are incredible.

They can do unbelievable things

They will also tell you exactly what they need if you’re willing to listen

And if you’re not, if you try to do too many things without rest, they will absolutely shut down to get what they need.” – Rachel Hollis

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This summer I started to get really burned out.

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My fatigue was a physical response to an emotional problem. And I could either listen or I could keep pushing on and ignore it.

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For the first time I listened…

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I needed to make a drastic life change.

I needed to stop working so many hours.

I needed to prioritize myself and family over the everyday hustle.

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So what did I do? I worked less, I set limits, I capped clients, I made time to rest, I took up new hobbies, and I enjoyed my first ever vacation without taking calls in ubers and answering emails on planes.

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Was it hard? Fuck yes – any person addicted to anything will tell you it’s the hardest thing they’ve ever done to pull back from the very thing that fills the void in their life. But when you do pull back, you are able to see the gaping void and fill it responsibility.

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For me, I was always yearning for recognition and appreciation. And if I wasn’t getting it all the time, I felt worthless and like a nobody. So with that kind of relentlessness, it’s no wonder I’m constantly on the run achieving, pursuing, and hustling with my blinders on.

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But like anything that is sought for the wrong reasons, no matter what you achieve, you will inevitable feel empty. You will feel so empty and burned out because you realize ‘oh fuck, that achievement didn’t bring the kind of recognition and fulfillment I thought it would – now what?”

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And after doing that for so many years (like all the years I can remember) and wind up with the same result at the end every time, you finally realize, maybe this is not what I should be chasing…

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My message for you to today is take a hard look at what you are chasing. Why you are chasing it. And what is getting left in the dust because of this pursuit?

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Are you running over yourself and others? Are you shitting all over your values and ethics in the process? Take a hard look people, because this is your legacy we are talking about!

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One last thing from a girl who has learned every lesson the hard way:

– listen to your body – whether that’s a gut feeling or an ache or pain – it’s never wrong;  

-be open to criticism from your peers and family – they mean well and you can always learn something from others; and finally,

-pray for God to reveal his wisdom through you so you don’t have to make every mistake under the sun.

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Happy Wednesday Loves

 

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